In the comments yesterday Saskia said something very interesting. She said,
"Weird how as a reader I've been looking at your life, from the other side of the world, as if it's a movie. I just realised that's exactly what other people do when they read my blog. I find it very interesting and intriguing how blogging 'works', how it's a half-reality but very real at the same time."
Of course as bloggers, I am sure we think about things like this all the time. Often times I read blogs that make me feel incredibly inadequate. Like I must be grossly mismanaging my time, that I should be getting more done, enjoying my time with my children more, reading more books, or just making more stuff. The list goes on and on. I know that the people who author these blogs have no intention of making their reader feel that way, rather they chose to blog the joys and the inspiration, to capture the moments that too often we let slip by if don't pause to write them down or take a picture. But you know and I know it is only half of everyone's story. If you are a blogger you know that there are messes you are ignoring perhaps even children you are ignoring to get that post written. If you are a crafter you know that there are mundane chores you must set aside to pause for your creation. There is always another side to the coin. And the picture isn't always pretty.
But do we blog to make ourselves feel better about those compromises? Or do we blog just because we want to share? Writing this now makes me think of Stephanie Nielson's blog NieNie and her courage in allowing us to still follow along on her journey despite it not seeming as picture perfect as it may have before the plane crash. Obviously and thankfully our situations are not nearly as extreme. The flip side of the coin for me is the stack of dirty dishes I left out from my Stack post or the million pictures of crying children in an unsorted, unlabeled folder on my computer because I have enough of those moments in reality that there is no need to rehash them digitally, or getting hit in the head with a freaked out chicken who knocks my already damaged glasses into a pile of chicken poop along with my newly knitted hat. Believe me there are far more moments like that in my life!
We are all guilty of editing out some of the 'ugly' whether it be on our blogs, in conversation with friends and family, or simply in our own minds. I am sure it is self preservation! As a mother, being able to pause for a minute to take a picture if the incredible mess that was made during the first few minutes of our day (not even our entire day) allows me to step out of the frustration I may be feeling and just accept it, maybe if I am lucky, even laugh at it. It's even better when our old cat Obie can find the warm sunlight in all the mess! A perfect metaphor!
Shouldn't we all find that warm sunlight in our days whether they be harmonious or as I like to call them, 'Upstream Days'? Why do you blog and what do you enjoy most about reading blogs? Do you wish more blogs showed the messy or does the pretty give you something to aspire to? How do you cope with your Upstream Days? What and how much do you edit out? I'd love to know!
***For the record, I typed this whole post with one hand while Vaughn in was in my other arm pulling my hair and having an Upstream Day with the five teeth ripping through his poor little gums. I also answered the phone two times, kept Finn (the goat) from getting his horn caught in the doggie door once and gave Simonne three snacks. But, I am going to edit out how long it actually took me to write the post, ok? ;)